Relaxed Hair Thread

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  1. ItsMeLilLucky

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    My hair is kinda ambivalent about aloe vera it hasn’t told me it hates, but it hasn’t told me it likes it either.
     
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  2. MzSwift

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    Rollersets are soo pretty! Every time I think I've talked myself into doing them, I remember: small toothed comb, rolling technique, 1+ hr under the dryer... Then I decide against them. But they're soo freaking pretty! I guess I'll keep admiring from afar. sigh.

    I'll use my energy instead to perfect my bantu knot out. A single top knot that I can rock for a day or two and then let down for pretty, loose curls. I think that'll be a styling goal for 2020 forward.
     
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  3. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    I just installed crochet twists. So happy to have my hair protected again. PSing is my safe space. I had my hair in two braided pig tails that I either pinned up or kept wrapped up. Every time I wear my hair out I'm too worried about friction, weather, etc. It's just not worth the stress. Lol. I'm happy to rock my hair "down/out" while in mini braids/twists. I'm also happy to only wear my hair loose for special occasions and short periods of time.
     
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    Hello Ladies! I've decided to chop off my relaxed hair! I have struggled with hairloss for the last year, so no more relaxers for me! I've decided on a new beginning until my scalp finally recovers .
     
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  5. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    Aww, so sad to see you go! I can't imagine how stressful it is to deal with that. :( I wish you the absolute BEST!!

    :bighug:
     
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    Thank you so much for your kind words, Mz Swift! It wasn't an easy decision to make. Thank You Ladies for your support!:cry3:
     
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    Relaxed Ladies, what do you use for leave-ins and what do you use to set your styles?
     
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  8. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    I use a spray mix I make with water/condish/oil. Lately I've been substituting Brahmi/Bhringaraj tea for the "water" and my hair has been shinier. HTH! :) My hair seems to prefer my mixes over premixed/store bought products.
     
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    I want to do my first relaxer EVER and I have no idea the do's and don'ts. Can anyone help me out with tips?
     
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    There are a few threads I read through before I did my virgin relaxer but that was a few years ago. The information is still very good though. I think there's a thread about relaxer tips or something like that floating around. It was very long and SUPER helpful.

    My quick advice from a non-professional:

    -practice applying the relaxer ahead of time using conditioner. The faster you can apply it, the better.
    -do your roots last because they will process faster
    -pre-part your hair ahead of time and use vaseline (not grease or oil) to base your scalp very well.
    -Smoothing (with a comb or your hands) seems to most directly impact the outcome of your relaxer. Lots of smoothing tends to give straighter results.
    -neutralize your hair thoroughly (lather up at least 3 times and leave the shampoo in for at least 5 minutes each time)
    --- For my final lather, I pour an ACV rinse onto my hair and then add neutralizing shampoo to lather.
    -Watch some Youtube relaxer videos for ideas. I like to pick up tips from different ppl to find what works for me.
    -Breathe, relax (no pun), and turn on some good music

    Both Lye and N0-Lye have their pros and cons. Think about which one would work best for you. And don't worry, you can always switch later. In one of the relaxed threads I learned a very unscientific quick way to remember the difference

    Lye- harder on the scalp, easier on the hair
    No-Lye - easier on the scalp, harder on the hair

    Have fun and GL!! :)

    ETA: A few post-relaxer thoughts:

    Natural hair hides a multitude of sins, LOL, so don't freak out if your hair doesn't look as prestine afterwards. I would say, give yourself a good trim (not a cut) and then create a plan for your hair.

    I learned this trim method and this is what I do whenever I trim my hair:



    If you haven't already, grab a lite-medium protein tx. Relaxed hair definitely needs protein. A good initial protein is the ORS Replenishing pak or conditioner. I personally used Infusium 21 leave in protein as both a natural and relaxed head.
     
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  11. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    I came in to post this bc sis has me thinking I can totally do this without tangling my hair! Lol. I love this video and come back to it every now and then but then I chicken out. After I take my hair down in a couple of weeks, I'm gonna try this wet wrap technique and let my hair air dry under a scarf.



    Then I'm gonna use this crosswrapping technique to upkeep and see how I like it. I have family coming from across the country for Xmas and I want to wear my hair out. My niece, the only girl among the kids, will be here and she wants to see her TiTi's hair. This is one of the reasons why I grew my hair out, to show young girls that WE can also have long hair so I have to wear my hair out. Lol

    Anyway this cross wrapping technique is less manipulation than regular wrapping. Does anyone know the name of the band that she uses? I'd like to get one.

     
  12. FadingDelilah

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    @MzSwift thanks so much! I'm in a hard place because I want relaxed hair like right now but I have a lot to learn. I guess its better to take my time absorbing all the info I need so I don't completely screw my hair (and scalp - yikes) up. I have this nice event on the 6th of December that I wanted it done by (I'm soooo tired of cringing at the thought of frequenting an event because of my hair). But I'm playing myself if I think I can do it in that much time. LOL.

    Any ideas on good no-lye relaxers? I heard that no-lye is worse for hair because of calcium on the hair or something like that. Is that true and is there any way to deal with this side effect? Thanks again.
     
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  13. MzSwift

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    @FadingDelilah

    I'm sure whatever you decide to do you'll look fabulous for your event!

    There are lots of lovely no-lye heads of hair in this thread. I don't remember them all by name but I've heard lots of references here and on YT to ORS, African Pride and Just for Me relaxers. In my days before the hair boards I used to alternate lye and no-lye. I preferred Optimum.

    I believe the no-lye ladies talk about chelating and other techniques to help with the calcium deposits. So sorry, I use lye so I'm not too versed on it. But I do think that overall, if you establish a consistent regi, your hair will flourish whether you choose lye or no-lye.
     
  14. PlanetCybertron

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    Nearly two months post, and don’t plan to do anything until New Years anyways. Mostly just been bunning. Been so busy with finals and everything. I just shampoo my roots, and condition, and air dry. Once all the busy stuff ends I can take a break and spoil my hair some more.
     
  15. MzSwift

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    To all who celebrate it:

    [​IMG]
     
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    Okay, thanks for the encouragement and advice!!! I really appreciate it. :D
     
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    Note to self: Do NOT use flat ironed hair as a braid base!

    I decided to take the risk of doing a cornrow base for my crochet twists. Since my hair was flat ironed, I figured it would limit the tangles I usually get. However, BECAUSE it was flat ironed and my strands are fine, my cornrows started slipping/loosening. So I just pulled the twists out. My son has a band concert tomorrow. I'll wear my hair out for that and then plait it up for a Lazy Girl crochet twist install. I'll rock that for 2 weeks until my family arrives and then wear my hair out for that week. I hope I can do it. I hate having my hair loose. LOL
     
  18. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    I just do not have the density to pull off an exaggerated side part. It looks lacking on me both texlaxed and natural. I'm done trying. I think I look better with a slightly off centered "natural" part or a diagonal part.
     
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    Her hair is styled so pretty. :love: I'm gonna try to perfect this for date nights.

     
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    What does this mean? I have seen you reference your fine hair before but it looks pretty dense/thick to me. Is there a difference between dense and thick? :)
     
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    Yes. I have very fine strands but not a lot of them on my head (density). My head is *maybe* medium density of fine strands of hair. But the strands themselves are flyaway thin. But because my hair texture is cottony, it looks like I have big hair but it's more like a cloud. If you were to go and put your hands into it, it's really soft and it collapses around your hand. I went to a natural hair meetup and one of my e-friends there was so surprised that she could part my fro with just a bobby pin and lay it down without much effort.

    I just don't have the density for the deep side part to look good on me. Let me find photo evidence of what I'm talking about. Lol. :bookworm:
     
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    To me, a braid out on straightened/relaxed hair looks like this:

    [​IMG]

    Hers is big and fuller looking. My hair looks more like this

    [​IMG]

    My braidouts are much flatter, even when I cornrow instead of plait.

    My avi is a pic of my side-parted cornrowed braidout on flat ironed NATURAL hair and it isn't this full. I was trying to find a better angle but it's on my detached hard drive somewhere. Lol


    Here's photo example of my braidout on straightened relaxed hair-



    The ability to do braid outs and for them to last as braidouts is one of the reasons I decided to return to texlaxing. I pretty much do the same stuff to my hair that I did as a natural. But my braidouts and twistouts would turn into poufs the minute I stepped outside as a natural, even in the winter. And that was after 1-2 day wash day, setting the style and then waiting 1-2 more days for my hair to dry. So happy to not have to deal w that anymore, just facing the fact that my braidouts won't be big and fluffy because I just don't have the texture or density for it. :(
     
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    Does anyone use the S curl spray as a moisturizer? Thinking about buying some for my ponytail/bun days.
     
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    I personally try to stay away from glycerin. But back when we had a TON of long-haired relaxed ladies on this board, a lot of them were "juicing" w S-Curl and saw many benefits!
     
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    What's up glycerine?
     
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    Glycerin itself isn't bad at all. Just not for my hair as a leave in. I try to stay away from humectants as leave ins because they require me to examine the humidity in the air and whether it's more or less than the moisture in my hair. I could never get it right, and my hair thrived without them so I just stay away. Lol.

    However, I have DC'd w honey in the past, which is also a humectant. I think they work better for me in DC's than as a moisturizer or leave in.
     
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    I'm not relaxed anymore but I love to lurk in here. @MzSwift our hair responds in a very similar way to the same things (both in relaxed and natural states). I totally get you on the fine strands and medium density 'woes' smh:cheers:. You have a great way of explaining things. I really like your posts.
     
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    Aww, thank you sis. :love2:

    [​IMG]

    I lurk in the natural threads too, Lol. I learned early on in the HHJ to look for ladies with similar hair characteristics instead of just curl type.
     
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    Thanks for explaining. That makes so much sense :).
     
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    So TiTi was struggling and decided to put my hair up in some twist extensions. They'll still be in when my niece gets here so I'm just gonna show her the picture of my last length check.

    I'm almost finished. I just have one, maybe two, more row(s) in the back. Right now they're pulled into a low ponytail to camouflage the unfinished part. I hope to keep these in for at least 4 weeks. I may even just stay in these for the first part of 2020. Start the new decade off right. Lol.
     

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