Relaxed Hair Thread

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  1. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    My twistouts aren't successful because my twists get flat when I lay on them. :( But based on a few YT vids, ladies tend to do them on wet hair with mousse and rollers on the ends. A lot of them do flat twists.

    Like this:

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    Because of my fine strands, when I want pretty heatless curls, I prefer bantu knots and braidouts with plaits. I like to do them on damp hair with leave in condish and I use aloe vera gel for some hold (the cheap one from the beauty aisle. Yes, I know I should be using the food grade one but :oops:). For looser waves I do 1-3 bantu knots or braids and for tighter curls, I do 4-8.

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  2. 11228

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    Sharing this great bargain with my relaxed ladies

     
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    Wowowow!! Love that scrunchies are back in style. Lol. That’s a great price! Have how bought it? I wonder about the size...
     
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    My relaxed hair behaves like blown out natural. I love it. I only relax for manageability anyway.
     
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    I just recieved my stash. I have to tie it twice for a good hold. I prefer less ties/twist, it lessens breakage when you go to take it out

    Such pretty colors too!
     
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    The amount of shedding I’ve been experiencing since the fall season started is ridiculous. However I’m also kind of speculating that whatever percentage of hairs that have hit the shedding phase, have now all synced up and are coming out. I suppose it just looks alarming to me because it’s been about 5 1/2 years since I’ve seen shedding like this. But I suppose it’s right on schedule to the typical 6-10 year anagen phase cycles. It just seems like a lot to me.
     
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    Y'all I swear it's like 2 steps forward and 3 steps back with my hair!!! :(

    I found more evidence of breakage!!! :fistshake:

    Not a ton, but way more than I would like to see. And I have been on my haircare like a mug too! I started a new medication a few months ago and looked up the possible side effects. Hair loss isn't listed. I'm just frustrated. I'll keep pushing though.

    One good thing is that I have enough hair for a decent bun. I'll keep it tucked away and get through this phase.

    Today's bun:

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  8. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    Currently taking down my mini braid twists. They've been in for 5 weeks to the day and I re-did them once. I'm happy to be getting back the length I lost from neglect, experimenting and cuts. I'm very happy with my retention. And my hair is very shiny, healthy looking because of the brahmi/bhringraj/hibiscus tea I've been using as my daily spray.

    Can't decide whether or not to relax now. I really want to put in some crochet twists and wait another month so that I can get a good EOTY length check pic. But I'll be so busy next month that I may not have time to do my hair. My last relaxer was in June so I guess it's time for another one.

    If I relax, I'll do my length check now and then rock phony ponies to bun my hair for the next few weeks. If not, I'll cornrow and rock crochet twists for about 4-6 weeks. Decisions, decisions.
     
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  9. ItsMeLilLucky

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    So the sealant I’ve been experimenting with is Blue Magic Castor Oil. Yup, good ole grease lol. I don’t use a lot at all, barely a fingertip full. I don’t use it on my scalp, just near the line of demarcation, and on the length. I put my leave ins on first, and then I seal with grease.
     
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    Forgot to add, I’m experiencing way less breakage then what I was expecting 3 months post.
     
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  11. MzSwift

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    That sounds like a winner! I've always thought grease would make a good sealant. Especially since one of my texlax idols used to seal with Vaseline.

    Keep it up! I'm interested to see how much it helps you with retention.
     
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  12. ItsMeLilLucky

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    Thanks! I wanted to test it out a bit before I started singing its praises. On the plus side it has Shea in it too. So do my other leave ins (TGIN Green Tea Moisturizer, and Just 4 Me Hair Milk).
     
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  13. MzSwift

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    So I went ahead and relaxed a few hours ago. Getting ready to rinse out my final deep conditioner. I finished taking down my minis yesterday and did a little finger detangling. Then I relaxed without detangling Pretty sure I'm gonna regret that. It feels nice to feel my scalp again. My last relaxer was in June.

    Here's my relaxer results. I'll post another pic of whatever style I choose to go with after I rinse and detangle. Lol

     
  14. Wenbev

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    three weeks post today, did a olaplaex treatment with a gloss last week.
    Realized some things:
    - the aphogee balancing moisturizer doesn't really work to moisturize as good as it should. there's protein in it, like why? Its marketed to use after the hard protein treatment. Decided to dump it even though its a half a bottle left.
    - olaplex at times can leave my hair feeling dry. I'm thinking bc its closing the cuticles so tightly that moisture cannot get thru. So my workaround is after olaplaex, using a moisturizing DC with heat for at least 30 minutes to reopen the cuticle and get that moisture in.
    - I need to read labels/ingredient lists better and question if some ingredients are indeed healthy for me and my hair/can fulfill what I'm looking for i.e. strengthening or moisture.
    - my hair still grows quite fast but it also breaks off just as fast due to dryness so I net zero on retaining length.
    - my hair needs a lot of moisture and I need to do some homework on finding products to give my hair what it needs.
     
  15. LonDone

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    @MzSwift Your hair is NOTHING short of fabulous!
     
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  16. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    @LonDone

    :heart3: Thank you so much, sis! It was a MESS last night.
     
  17. MzSwift

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  18. ItsMeLilLucky

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    That’s how I discovered my hair does not like soybean oil/glycine soja oil. And it loves marshmallow root/slippery elm.
     
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    @MzSwift It’s gorgeous! The relaxer results kinda reminds me of faux locs.
     
  20. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    Thanks, love! :love2:

    That's because I relax and rinse in twists. Sometimes I'll let it dry like that when I don't do a length check.
     
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    Yes, this Exactly!!!!!! @ItsMeLilLucky

    I was thinking, it looks like relaxed dreadlocks - how beautiful!!!

    I wonder if that could be achieved, I would in a heartbeat.
     
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  22. MzSwift

    MzSwift Texlaxed, Fine

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    I love that style as well. And honestly, I did have some locs bc I did not properly detangle and I leave too much texture when I texlax to do that.

    I tried to do relaxed locs in 2016 but I did them small like sistalocs. I was worried about not being able to rinse out the relaxer properly from the length of the locs and having breakage. So I just combed them out and kept relaxing it loose.

    I'm actually hoping to install chunky twist extensions which sorta mimic the look. I don't like the neat, uniformed ones but they seem to be the most protective. Even the faux locs are too neat. And everytime I search "boho" all I find are ladies throwing in curly hair. That's not the look I'm going for, it's still too neat. I'm hoping to find a kinky boho look. Until then, I'm going to try some like these:

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    I like these fuzzy ones too, just not in blonde:

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  23. Meritamen

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    Sigh. I am now relaxed/texlaxed. I just washed out the press my stylist did and see that the length of my hair is texlax like I wanted but the roots are practically bone straight. At first I was a upset because now that means I will have to maintain 3 textures instead of 2 while I grow out that straight parts. That's going to take about 2 years.
    I don't plan on cutting it but I may attempt a corrective on the texlax part so that everything will match and just texlax the roots as my hair grows out. I am so close to APL and every time there's a setback. :cry3:

    Anyway, I will be doing my own at home-texlaxing. I was hoping to get a virgin texlax professionally so that I would have a good start. Sigh. Any suggestions for a pro-level mild/sensitive scalp relaxer would be great. I was going to try the Mizani Butter Blends but Affirm looks good too.
     
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    @MzSwift

    How long did you try that for, was it just one relaxer session only/one session and maintained until the next relaxer/multiple relaxers?

    Breakage was the first consideration; I thought maybe the broken hair would become part of the loc but if the hair's breaking at the ends that's a complete non-starter!

    Your hair is Goals, still to this day since I joined under another name in 2012!
     
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  25. MzSwift

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    Awww. :bighug:

    I don't think you'll have to cut. Depending on how you primarily wear your hair, you may not even really notice the difference. Honestly, if you think about it, even natural hair isn't uniformed. My texlaxed strands aren't uniformed either and I had heard ppl cutting because of it so I was worried. But I found that it wasn't really a big deal. Also, sometimes the hair seems super straight right after a relaxer but after a while, it poofs back up and isn't as straight. I hope that's the case for you.:pray:

    I agree that it may be better to take control of your relaxers. Sounds like she did the roots first and then combed it down the length, which means that the roots processed longer and maybe your body heat helped it to processes straighter. I love using Motions mild, lye relaxer. I know it's sold almost everywhere so I don't have to worry about not being able to find it. And I think it's overall a good relaxer. GL to you in your search! :)
     
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    Thanks so much! :kiss:

    I only did it for 6 months. I started them on 3 months post relaxed hair and then put them in. I wanted them tiny for versatility. I had planned to only relax them every 6 months. But when I went to relax, I was too terrified to try it and then lose length. So I chickened out. Lol


    This is what they looked like before I combed them out


     
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    Thanks so much for the response @MzSwift. Yeah, I'm not going to cut it if its not needed. The plan is to keep my hair in updos and buns since its at the length where the ends rest on my shoulders anyway. No one can tell the texture difference unless my hair is down without straightening it first.

    Right now I am looking for a stylist to do a corrective relaxer. I will just have to rock relaxed hair for a while and then texlax the roots as they grow in.

    I just talked to one stylist and she said the same thing you did MzSwift that over the next few weeks I may see some more texture. She said she wouldn't do a corrective until a few weeks after the virgin relaxer. So I will wait it out and see what happens.
     
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    I made the mistake of doing a corrective after I did my virgin texlax. I waited about 8 months but I regretted doing it almost immediately. I ended up with bone straight hair. I primarily rocked braidouts and wet buns. And when I straightened it, the different textures didn't matter. So I really didn't need to do a corrective in the first place. I don't do WNGs at all. So if you don't do WNGs either, you may not even need a corrective. That'll limit the chances of messing up any progress you've made.
     
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    I love me some marshmallow and slippery elm! I even bought the bulk when I was a rea rinsed. I need to start tea rinsing again. And infusing oils again. My hair hates aloe Vera anything. What about yours?
     
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    That sucks! Maybe see if olaplex standalone treatment no 1 and 2 can help correct the broken bonds...
     
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